Speak up


Just a little story to celebrate my quiet but fierce growing girl.

Don’t we all want our girls to be confident enough to speak up when they feel hurt? Don’t we all want our girls to be brave enough to say what they feel? Don’t we hope for our girls to have the courage to ask questions and want explanations?

We do, and they can.

That’s what our headstrong Anna did tonight. It’s not some long, complicated story. Basically, she was acting a little sassy today and talking back some too. At dinner, she was acting like a smart aleck towards her father. Mistake one. And, then she continued to argue with him about something dumb, and he called her a smart aleck. It went something like, “you need to stop acting like a smart aleck”. (and she was but…)

But, she got quiet, finished her cake, and left the table. When she came upstairs a couple minutes later, she came to me and asked why it was ok for dad to call her a “smart aleck” when he tells them it’s not ok for her and Brody to say that. “It’s a bad word. And, it made me sad when he said that”. She was very serious and got a little teary when telling me how “that hurt her feelings”. So, I suggested she go downstairs and tell him how she feels.

She did, calmly and humbly.  She told him the exact same thing she told me, (as I listened in from upstairs). He told her he didn’t like her arguing , that he was sorry he hurt her feelings, and then he asked for a hug.

It was so sweet, and powerful. Honesty and forgiveness. It’s cool when something good comes out of something bad, even in small learning moments like this. Life lessons for the night:

Speak up for what you want and need.

Words are powerful, good and bad. Use them wisely.

Be honest. Be brave.


I love a powerful girl.




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  1. I can count on one hand the number of times my father ever admitted he was wrong in word or deed to us kids… and have several fingers left over. How lovely that your daughter feels safe enough to voice her hurts, and her father is honest enough to admit when he’s made an error. Both are precious gifts.


    1. Gifts indeed, and not to be taken for granted. He’s a great dad and wonderful man. And you are SO right but using the word “safe”. I love that, and I love that she’s practicing for the big bad world in her safe place with people who’ll always love and respect her. Thanks for your amazing comments, and the reminder!

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      1. Having never felt safe to speak up as a child, I can honestly say that I hope your daughter never understands the greatness of such a gift, because to understand it she must be without it, and I hope she never is. And thank your husband for being so wonderful with her if you haven’t lately… I don’t think many good fathers hear often enough how good of a job they are doing 🙂

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